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Wed May 15 11:36:39 . she likes it...
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Wed May 15 11:36:38 . Enjoy yet another yahtzee room
InVeigle said:

InVeigle has started a new game with the following players:
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Wed May 15 11:33:50 . Enjoy yet another yahtzee room
InVeigle said:

InVeigle has started a new game with the following players:
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Wed May 15 11:33:44 . Enjoy yet another yahtzee room
InVeigle said:

Wed May 15 11:33:24 . she likes it...
skinny bi whore said:
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Wed May 15 11:33:14 . Femjail Redux
Pervert Cop said:
jackboots clicking as I make my way down the block
two Guards are DPing a crying slut in the middle of the corridor
I step around them, and go about my business

Wed May 15 11:32:45 . she likes it...
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Wed May 15 11:31:57 . Raw Humanity
Raw said:
GUIDEPOST #3

CULTIVATING A RESILIENT SPIRIT: Letting Go of Numbing and Powerlessness



WHAT MAKES UP RESILIENCE?


Five of the most common factors of resilient people:

  1. They are resourceful and have good problem-solving skills.
  2. They are more likely to seek help.
  3. They hold the belief that they can do something that will help them to manage their feelings and to cope.
  4. They have social support available to them.
  5. They are connected with others, such as family or friends.

The foundation of resilience is the belief in connection, a power greater than self, and interconnections grounded in love and compassion.


From this foundation, three other significant patterns emerged as being essential to resilience:
1. Cultivating hope
2. Practicing critical awareness
3. Letting go of numbing and taking the edge off vulnerability, discomfort, and pain

HOPE AND POWERLESSNESS

Hope is not an emotion; it’s a way of thinking or a cognitive process.

Hope is a thought process made up of a trilogy of goals, pathways, and agency.

In very simple terms, hope happens when:

  • We have the ability to set realistic goals (I know where I want to go).
  • We are able to figure out how to achieve those goals, including the ability to stay flexible and develop alternative routes (I know how to get there, I’m persistent, and I can tolerate disappointment and try again).
  • We believe in ourselves (I can do this!).

So, hope is a combination of setting goals, having the tenacity and perseverance to pursue them, and believing in our own abilities.

Hope is learned!

The new cultural belief that everything should be fun, fast, and easy is inconsistent with hopeful thinking. It also sets us up for hopelessness. When we experience something that is difficult and requires significant time and effort, we are quick to think, This is supposed to be easy; it’s not worth the effort, or, This should be easier: it’s only hard and slow because I’m not good at it. Hopeful self-talk sounds more like, This is tough, but I can do it.

On the other hand, for those of us who have the tendency to believe that everything worthwhile should involve pain and suffering -- never fun, fast, and easy is as detrimental to hope as always fun, fast, and easy.

Tolerance for disappointment, determination, and a belief in self are the heart of hope.

Hopelessness is dangerous because it leads to feelings of powerlessness.

PRACTICING CRITICAL AWARENESS

Practicing critical awareness is about reality-checking the messages and expectations that drive the “never good enough” gremlins.

It’s in our biology to trust what we see with our eyes. This makes living in a carefully edited, overproduced, and Photoshopped world very dangerous. If we want to cultivate a resilient spirit and stop falling prey to comparing our ordinary lives with manufactured images, we need to know how to reality-check what we see. We need to be able to ask and answer these questions:

1. Is what I’m seeing real? Do these images convey real life or fantasy?
2. Do these images reflect healthy, wholehearted living, or do they turn my life, my body, my family, and my relationships into objects and commodities?
3. Who benefits by my seeing these images and feeling bad about myself? Hint: This is ALWAYS about money and/or control.

In addition to being essential to resilience, practicing critical awareness is actually one of the four elements of shame resilience. Shame works like the zoom lens on a camera. When we are feeling shame, the camera is zoomed in tight and all we see is our flawed selves, alone and struggling. We think to ourselves, I’m the only one. I am alone.

When we zoom out, we start to see a completely different picture. We see many people in the same struggle. Rather than thinking, I’m the only one, we start thinking, I can’t believe it! You too? I’m normal? I thought it was just me!

Once we start to see the big picture, we are better able to reality-check our shame triggers and the messages and expectations that we’re never good enough.

When we allow ourselves to become culturally conditioned to believe that we are not enough and that we don’t make enough or have enough, it damages our soul.


Wed May 15 11:31:52 . she likes it...
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Wed May 15 11:31:00 . The City OOC and IC Cork
Orlando said:
Enjoy.

Wed May 15 11:30:08 . she likes it...
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Wed May 15 11:28:50 . she likes it...
skinny bi whore said:
peeking in

Wed May 15 11:28:15 . Doms and Their subs
Clifton said:
delighted and surprised by the two-fer
as much as gutted by the miss.
I'll be checking tonight without fail!

Wed May 15 11:27:53 . suck you is now suck me
skinny bi whore said:
maybe ill check out other rooms .....

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Wed May 15 11:26:43 . suck you is now suck me
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Wed May 15 11:26:19 . suck you is now suck me
skinny bi whore said:
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Wed May 15 11:25:45 . Femjail Redux
Pervert Cop said:
a complaint has crossed my desk
seems wanda is claiming she's protected
no slut can restrict another slut
I'll have to send a dozen Guards her way to make that point

Wed May 15 11:25:32 . Meet the Starlets... or are they harlots
One Who Is said:
wanders in, shakes my head and then wanders out

Wed May 15 11:25:19 . your dream sissy.
Kitara said:

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