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Tue May 14 14:22:55 . Z2 Corkboard
cynthia leigh said:

Tue May 14 14:22:18 . Z2 Corkboard
cynthia leigh said:

Tue May 14 14:20:34 . Meet the Starlets... or are they harlots
livvy dunne said:
looks in for a few

Tue May 14 14:20:33 . Satiate
northern whispers said:

tender smile blooming

offering a curtsy of gratitude

before spreading my wings and taking flight

🌸


Tue May 14 14:20:15 . Brothers' Den: Lionheart MaL & Jarl G
MaL of Port Kar@gor said:
Stands and walks around checking all is well

Tue May 14 14:10:41 . Brothers' Den: Lionheart MaL & Jarl G
MaL of Port Kar@gor said:
Walks and sits

Tue May 14 14:10:25 . Brothers' Den: Lionheart MaL & Jarl G
MaL of Port Kar@gor said:
Enters

Tue May 14 14:04:54 . Z2 Corkboard
Orlando said:
Of course.

Tue May 14 14:04:53 . May's quiet garden
Gerri L said:
looks in

Tue May 14 14:04:24 . The City OOC and IC Cork
Hunter Jamison said:
#r-tonios - Book the last massage of the day. Just trust me on this.

Tue May 14 14:02:11 . Enjoy yet another yahtzee room
Apollo said:
Out

Tue May 14 13:59:52 . Enjoy yet another yahtzee room
Apollo said:

Apollo has started a new game with the following players:
Apollo


Tue May 14 13:57:57 . Acro-verse
Tangent said:
SUNDAYS

She
Unhurriedly
Nibbled
Dates
At
Yesterday's
Service

SERVICE


Tue May 14 13:57:33 . Enjoy yet another yahtzee room
Apollo said:

Apollo has started a new game with the following players:
Apollo


Tue May 14 13:57:27 . Enjoy yet another yahtzee room
Apollo said:

Tue May 14 13:44:12 . The Dock
hesitant(f) said:
I’m sorry that all I could leave were whispers yesterday. RT was being a relentless bitch ~s~

Tue May 14 13:42:59 . Z2 Corkboard
Pepin said:
Sending best wishes.

Tue May 14 13:40:42 . Z2 Corkboard
vaash said:
For sure cory{BI}
Prayers for success and healing lifted

Tue May 14 13:39:14 . Z2 Corkboard
Delilah said:
Prayers and healing thoughts for your friend. I've had a heart ablation several years ago. Truly, he'll be fine, but he needs to make sure he rests up afterwards and takes things easy for a while.

Tue May 14 13:37:17 . Raw Humanity
Raw said:
WHAT DOES SHAME LOOK LIKE?

In order to deal with shame, some of us move away by withdrawing, hiding, silencing ourselves, and keeping secrets. Some of us move toward by seeking to appease and please. And some of us move against by trying to gain power over others, by being aggressive, and by using shame to fight shame (like sending really mean emails).

Shame is about fear, blame, and disconnection.

If we want to live fully, without the constant fear of not being enough, we have to own our story. We also have to respond to shame in a way that doesn’t exacerbate our shame. One way to do that is to recognize when we’re in shame so we can react with intention.

The easiest way to know shame is to cultivate an awareness of our physical shame symptoms -- a warm wash of inadequacy comes over me, my heart races, my face feels hot, my mouth gets dry, my armpits tingle, and time slows down. It’s important to know our personal symptoms so we can get deliberate in our response to shame.

When we’re in shame, we’re not fit for human consumption. We need to get back on our emotional feet before we do, say, email, or text something that we’ll regret.


If you want to kick-start your shame resilience and story-claiming, start with these questions. Figuring out the answers can change your life:

1. Who do you become when you’re backed into that shame corner?
2. How do you protect yourself?
3. Who do you call to work through the mean-nasties or the cry ’n’ hides or the people-pleasing?
4. What’s the most courageous thing you could do for yourself when you feel small and hurt?


Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: “Who has earned the right to hear my story?” If we have one or two people in our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and love us for our strengths and struggles, we are incredibly lucky. If we have a friend, or a small group of friends, or family who embraces our imperfections, vulnerabilities, and power, and fills us with a sense of belonging, we are incredibly lucky.


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